What is it like to work with me?

I am honest, warm, compassionate, and I like to use humor to alleviate tension. I see myself as a fellow flawed human, a teacher, and comrade.

I use Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)—the best evidenced-based treatment option for couples in distress. I have advanced training in this model and I love using it to help my clients find understanding of their negative patterns, and have vulnerable, healing conversations. Through the process of EFT, you will learn to handle conflict better, regulate and understand your emotions, create stronger bonds, and heal past hurts. The majority of this work is done in session through in-the-moment practice and processing, but you have to put in the effort at home too.

Who do I work with?

I work with adults only—18 and older. I see couples, individuals, and adult families, whose primary concern is relational (ie: conflict, insecurity, breakups, infidelity, grief, communication issues, etc). I specialize in helping you move toward more secure and sustainable relating. If you have an active addiction, ongoing infidelity, a lack of physical safety, or if you no longer want to be in your relationship, I may not be the best couples therapist for you. Due to this, I ask all clients to schedule a free 15 minute consultation to make sure we are a good fit. Schedule a free consult here.

Where do we meet?

I see local clients in my office, and use telehealth for out of town folks.

When can we meet?

I work Monday through Thursday 8:30-1:30 in office. I always recommend starting off meeting on a weekly basis.

How much does it cost?

I am in network with select insurance companies (BCBS, TriWest, FCHN). Cash rates are as follows:

Couples/family intake (90 minutes): $240

Couples/family session (75 minutes): $200

Individual intake (90 minutes): $225

Individual session (60 minutes): $160

Initial Zoom consultation (15-20 minute): Free

Please read the fine print: The majority​ of couples seeking counseling for communication, re-connection and intimacy issues do not meet insurances’ criteria for medical necessity and therefore will not be billable to insurance. Why?! Insurance companies will only cover services based on a diagnosis that they decide is medically necessary. While many insurance companies claim to cover couples/family counseling, they do so only if the "identified patient" who's insurance is being billed has a medical condition they recognize as legitimate. Additionally, couples/family counseling must be proven to be an evidence-based treatment for the identified condition. This means that in the great majority of cases, Tobi will only accept cash payment for couple/family therapy.

What is the ‘No Surprises Act’?

You have the right to receive a "Good Faith Estimate" explaining how much your care will cost. Under this new law, health care providers are to give uninsured patients an estimate of their bill for medical services.

• You have the right to receive a Good Faith Estimate for the total expected cost of any non-emergency services. This includes related costs like medical tests, prescription drugs, equipment, and hospital fees.

• Make sure your health care provider gives you a Good Faith Estimate in writing at least 1 business day before your medical service. You can also ask your health care provider, and any other provider you choose, for a Good Faith Estimate before you schedule an item or service.

• If you receive a bill that is at least $400 more than your Good Faith Estimate, you can dispute the bill.

For questions or more information about your right to a Good Faith Estimate, visit www.cms.gov/nosurprises.